Filed under: crime, culture, drama, ethical dilemmas, etiquette, food, friends, gifts, people, relationships, romance
oh, your vaginas are acting up?
cool… except not.
lately, i’ve noticed alot of girls talking unabashedly about their vaginas. in class, over dinner, in da club: vagina, vagina, vagina.
this is inappropriate. stop it, please.
But wait, you say, I saw famous, respectable women talking about their vaginas in the vagina monologues and oprah talks about her vajayjay!
true. but there is a difference. for clarity’s sake, i will list people who you may, and may not, talk to about your vagina:
people that you may talk to about your vagina:
your mom
your sisters
your husband or fiancee (and probably only if you have cancer)
dr. ruth
close girlfriends or gay friends who you know won’t be weirded out
oprah: i know she’s probably not your close friend but emotionally she probably might as well be
note: none of these count if you are within earshot of someone enjoying a meal.
people you may never talk to about your vagina:
anyone sitting across a dining table from you
men
television presenters whose program’s audience isn’t at least 80% women
me (half a dozen girls exempted)
i am sorry. i must be so victorian. i just think that it is an odd thing to talk about. i know women should be empowered by their “sex”…
it just seems a little less special when you talk about it to everyone.
plus it’s gross.
sarah silverman channeling georgia o’keefe via the huffington post
Filed under: beverly center, budget luxury, fashion, food, friends, los angeles, mid-city west, my neighborhood, people, shopping
today i met my friend sophia at the beverly center to do some shopping for a merchandising project and have some dinner. sophia is from gothenburg, which is the second largest city in sweden, but before los angeles, she lived in london, so she has a really beautiful, interesting accent. we went to h&m, where i bought these beautiful floral scarves, j. lindberg (also a swedish store), and the new guess where they had free hors d’oeuvre and drinks and a funky tribal dj, then for coffee at the coffee bean at robertson and beverly. i put one of the scarves behind my neck, under the arms, and tied it in the back, almost like a policeman’s shoulder holster so that it was just visable around my neck and along the edge of my blazer’s lapels. i thought it had an elegant effect.
i love having friends from other countries. it makes me feel cosmopolitan and sophisticated.
Filed under: books, etiquette, friends, gifts, kindness, people, shopping, the grove, travel
today i came across two books while at the grove that i couldn’t pass up,
i have a bit of an obsession with etiquette books, some of the older, more archaic versions are great for a few laughs as well as a window into social codes and structures often extinct. Many others, though, can be relevant, insightful, and unpretensious reminders of how to be a modern lady or gentleman.
the art of civilized conversation, by margaret shepherd instantly drew me in with the author’s charming, easy voice. it seems to be a genuine, unstuffy, and instructive book on improving and perfecting conversation skills. will write more when finished.
here is an interesting article i found about conversation in history:
http://www.economist.com/world/displaystory.cfm?story_id=8345491
sunny and i have both been the victim of some pretty messed up deeds by villainous strangers lately, so when i saw the kindness of strangers - a collection of travel stories about kind deeds by total strangers, i thought that it would be the perfect book to help us both reframe our state of mind. it is edited by don george and has a foreward on the importance of kindness by the dalai lama.
Filed under: 3rd street, beverly center, books, budget luxury, food, friends, los angeles, mid-city west, my neighborhood, people, shopping, the grove
- slept in ’till 10,
- got a surprise im from sunny in togo and talked for about an hour,
- picked up fresh apples, bananas, squash, and mint at the farmer’s market and a baguette from monsieur marcel,
- found an ettiquette book i had to have at anthropologie and (i hope) the perfect gift for sunny at borders.
- watched people decorate the enourmous christmas tree at the grove,
- met sophia on robertson for some more shopping and coffee.
this is a picture i took last summer of the stand i buy my fruit and veggies from at the farmer’s market.
last night was without a doubt the worst halloween i have ever had. highlights of the night include:
- sitting in traffic for an hour and a half
- waiting in line at -mcdonalds- for 20 minutes because my friend wanted a hamburger
- finally getting to my favorite bar in la (akbar) only to leave 5 minutes later because someone we were with thought it was “boring”
- driving in heavy traffic with ultra-agressive, emotional people
- walking for a mile on hollywood blvd along with tens of thousands of the trashiest people in la
- going to the “awesome” club that was supposedly $5 cover charge only to find out that it was $40 to get in and then having people get mad at me because i’m being cheap- i’m sorry, but i’m not paying $40 to dance with a bunch of trashy drunk people.
- being the only person not completely wasted in a bar that was at twice its capacity.
- finally cutting my losses and walking the 3.8 miles back to my house (i google-mapped it)
the only good thing about last night was that my beer and 2 ginger ales were $5 total plus $3 tip. plans for the $40 i saved by not going to the trashy club include seeing southland tales (by the guy who did donnie darko) at the afi fest ($11) and the darjeeling limited ($11) and the rest toward a replacement ipod.
lessons learned: be more assertive when out with agressive, self -centered people, don’t hang out with agressive, self-centered people.
next year i’m going to netflix a hitchcock film and open a bottle of red.
- bicycle shopping via craigslist- i want an old one with funky handle bars for cruising around the ‘hood- budget $100.
- finish reading the glass bead game by hermann hesse.
- go to bikram- its been a month, it will hurt but i miss it.
- put together a care package for sunny.
- go see the darjeeling limited- wes anderson makes the funniest movies.
today is my friend jake’s birthday.
when i came out to my parents and we had a huge fight, jake came and got sobbing me from the scott’s parking lot on maplecrest in fort wayne.
here we are walking through the redwoods, having a roadside yoga break at big sur, and at a bar in the castro.
love you jake.
